Saying ‘farewell’ to a foster child can bring about a rollercoaster of emotions, no matter how long or short a time they’ve been with you. Then, you begin to prepare to take the plunge again and welcome a new young person in to your home to help ‘unravel their knots’ and give them the kind of happy childhood they richly deserve.
Our foster carer, Michelle, and her family, are saying goodbye to a young person who’s been with them for a long while. Michelle has put pen to paper to share her thoughts with you and advises embracing the support and training offered by the team here at Blue Sky:
“And so, all of a sudden, after eleven years of the same placement, we’re getting ready to think about considering the potential of fostering again. I’ve been thinking, recently, about training and how often I hear the phrase “I’ve done that training, don’t need to do it again” or “I have a lot of experience in that field so no thank you” (and I say it to myself, too).
I also know that when we foster again, I’ll have more skills than ever, more resources to draw on, more tools in my arsenal to ensure I do a great job. I haven’t ‘failed’ our current placement, but I do wish I’d known then what I know now. I have ‘failed’ others in some ways (not seriously, but stuff I wish I’d done differently) and I am eternally grateful for the training opportunities we keep being offered to ensure that, with every child, my own included, my role is enhanced and my skills are greater.
Parenting is hard. Parenting someone else’s child is harder. Parenting a traumatised child is darn near impossible. To steal someone else’s catchphrase, no one ever said fostering is easy. Accepting support, resources and training to enable us to do it better is vital, no matter how many times you’ve been there and done that and bought the t-shirt.”